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Let’s talk about the elephant in the room: your relationship with your father and how it’s potentially sabotaging your love life.
The Uncomfortable Truth About Father-Daughter Dynamics
Your first relationship might be with your mother, but your second most crucial relationship? That’s with your father, your initial encounter with masculine energy.
What Toxic Masculinity Really Looks Like
Imagine growing up in a home where safety is just a fantasy. Many women navigate childhood with an abusive, volatile father.
- Healthy Masculine Energy: Protective and providing
- Toxic Masculine Energy: Controlling, violent, destructive
An abusive, toxic Father is violent, uses threats and intimidation, has extreme control over your life, unpredictable and often uses shame to control you.
Sound familiar? Think phrases like:
- “You are so stupid, you will never amount to anything, you are a disappointment to me.”
- “I brought you into this world, I can take you out. You’re nothing without me. I own you.”
Stuck in Fear and Anxiety
Safety isn’t a luxury, it’s a fundamental human need, as essential as food or water. When a woman feels perpetually unsafe:
- She gets stuck in a state of fear, doubt and anxiety
- She creates walls of self-protection
- She emotionally shuts down
- She becomes relationship repellent
The result? Even though she craves connection but unconsciously she pushes away every potential partner, ending up alone and forever longing.
And on top of that, She’ll unconsciously program herself to believe ALL men are like her father. Not surprisingly, she will often choose men like her father despite of wanting something dofferent.
This is what I call Catch-22.
Your Healing Roadmap
Step 1: Awareness is the Key
I know the challenge and there is a way out! You have to heal your relationship with your Father.
This doesn’t mean that you have to have him in your life but it means is you have to find a way to let go of the past and create peace within you so you can truly move on.
- Confronting your past
- Process generational baggage
- Find inner peace
Step 2: Therapy and Re-learning
Do you want to stop making the same mistakes? Therapy isn’t optional, it’s essential to find peace, forgiveness, acceptance and deeper understanding. Learning what a healthy and toxic masculine is, learning to set clear boundaries will help you to feel safe, be open and to trust the masculine again.
- Learn about the healthy and toxic masculine
- Establish clear boundaries
- Rebuild trust
The Unfiltered Truth
Your father’s toxic behavior is a only chapter, not your entire story. Don’t allow it to rule your whole life! Take your power back, change your story and create the loving relationships you desire and deserve. Remember, you are the healer and love is the medicine!
Help is Always Available
When you embark on this path of healing and self-discovery your best ally is a professional guide who can support you in your process and make it faster and easier. My Ayahuasca Assisted Therapy Program is a year long container designed to uproot suffering and create breakthrough results.
If you had enough and you are ready for a major change, and you are are called to work with sacred plants, connect with me for a free consultation!
With love, Nina Izel
